We All Have Voids To Fill...

Apart from the apparent sexual connotation, it's the truth... To avoid generalization, I shall use the word "most" here... Anyways...

Most of us are unfortunately not complete... We've got huge holes in us, emotionally, mentally, (?physically?), spiritually, etc etc... Most journeys seeking the truth start off with the realization that he/she's got a hole to fill to feel complete... What was that song sung so heart-wrenching by my favourite almost 50 year old rocker, Bono? Yeah... I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For... And it's the truth... While some of us are pretty happy with what we have, most of us are still looking, searching, or asking...

It's not a bad thing of course... This is how you make your self human... The constant need to satisfy self... To make self happier by reaching that next level... That next promotion, that next book, that next movie, that next base to reach, that next kiss, that next milestone, that next kilometer, that next size closer to 0, that next kg dropped, that next episode or DVDrip to download... Sometimes even if you don't realize it, you're living out the story of the carrot and the racehorse... Where the carrot's tied so that it's just always just out of the reach of the horse's mouth, and the poor thing keeps running to just reach it... (Same thing like the dog running after it's tail forever... I wonder why it does that... Maybe it's just itching where the poor thing can't reach?)

The irony of the matter is when we choose to ignore all else except our favourite indulgence, void-filling... When void-filling becomes a hiding mechanism or selfishness, it loses it's purpose... You're now regressing instead of progressing... It's up to us to decide when enough is enough, when to stop being pawns governed by the system and when to say no. Filling your void is a good thing... But it's a bad thing when you've started ignoring all else and becoming selfish... 'Coz there are people always around... People who depend on you, People who you need to meet, People whose life you need to make a difference in... And you can't keep ignoring them. You can't ignore other important things you've go to do in life other than your current void-filling exercise. It ain't worth it. Sharing yourself and your time matters more than being selfish.

When you can't reach the carrot, stop. Think if it's worth the effort. If it is, start running again, otherwise, walk away. The 64 year old rocker/prophet Mick Jagger sang... You Can't Always Get What You Want... It's the truth... There are other things that matter and are more important. Think about it. Don't ruin your life by straying from the path to success and happiness. It's always long term happiness that really matters... Though living in the present doesn't sound like a bad idea at all, saving up a bit for a rainy day is also a good insurance policy for life.

Luv,
Nelson